DuPre’s Sunday morning sermon, “Just a Little Talk with Jesus,” used the story of Jacob wrestling God in Genesis 32 as a starting point to discuss each person’s need for regular and intimate times of prayer. He especially focused upon God’s wrenching of Jacob’s hip that caused him to walk away from the all-night wrestling match with a limp. In a similar fashion, our own wrestling with God in prayer – for prayer can be anywhere from joyful to painful – can leave us in some way permanently marked or changed. We come away from it with a different “walk,” a difference in our attitude and actions. We are not the same again.
Yet we often don’t treat prayer as an opportunity for transforming our character. More often, it may be something we get through because we know we should at least talk to God even if we don’t know what to say. Or prayer is reaching out a lifeline, hoping mainly that God will address all the requests that we have. On a few occasions we just might understand and experience prayer as it is meant to be – enjoyment of the presence and closeness of God. We just might get a glimpse of our own renewal in those moments.
But we all know it isn’t easy to make prayer a fuller and more meaningful experience. We’re distracted by the noise we fill our lives with – TV, radio, Internet videos, iTunes, etc. Our thoughts quickly fill with other things we need to do -or really, really want to do – during the day: homework, hangout with friends, chores, eat, eat again, eat some more. Our “prayer life” may become nothing more than a few bursts of “God, please do this” while we lay in bed and drift off to sleep.
On Sunday evening I suggested that we can adopt patterns to structure our prayer time that help us both focus as well as make our encounter with God broader than a litany of “Could you please do” x, y, or z. If prayer really does make us better people, more Christ-like and more righteous, then we can think of it like practice. Athletes know that when they practice for a sport they don’t just randomly run around. There’s an order or pattern to their practice that conditions them physically and mentally to play their sport better. One practice may begin with stretches and warm-ups, proceeds through drills, then may go into simulated play, finishing up with stretches at the end. Everyone knows there is an order set on purpose so that when it comes game time, the athlete is ready to perform at a high level.
We can think of prayer in a similar way as our “practice” for playing the game of life – that is, for living out God’s good news every day of our lives. If prayer is practice that shapes our personality and actions much like sports practice shapes an athlete’s skills, then setting down some patterns or order for this practice can, through the grace given us by God the Holy Spirit, cause us to “walk with a limp” or look and act as the different sort of people God wants us to be. With that in mind, I gave the youth a handout discussing certain patterns for their prayer times/quiet times, let them practice a pattern at the end of our time together, and encouraged them to take the handout home with them. I reproduce it below for anyone else who wants to take it and use it for building a useful structure to his or her prayer life:
Keep on the QT: Patterns for your Devotional/Quiet Time
A.C.T.S.
Adoration- Start by praising God, simply honoring Him for being who He is
Confession- Tell God about your sins and ask for forgiveness
Thanksgiving – Thank God for the good things you have experienced
Supplication – Offer God your requests for your own needs and those of others
Holy Reading QT
(see “Praying the Scripture” handout for more explanation)
“Center” yourself – Relax body and mind and focus on a key word or phrase (see #3 below)
Read slowly- Find a word or phrase that grabs your attention
Meditate – Take time to savor it, think about it, and see what God may teach you in the silence
Pray verbally – Share with God what you think or feel because of that word or phrase. You may go from this to the ACTS pattern or any set of prayers of confession, thanks, request – or even anger and frustration
Rest – Finish by remaining silent before God, trusting in His presence
Bonhoeffer’s Pattern
(Life Together)
Prayer of Illumination- Begin by asking God to send the Holy Spirit to you through your reading of the Bible
Read a brief Bible story or text
Meditate on Scripture- Sometimes the whole passage, sometimes a single word or phrase. Listen for the passage as God’s word to you.
Personal prayer – Base your prayers for yourself on what you have read, perhaps even praying some of the very same words as you found on the page.
Intercession- Move out from yourself to consider the needs of others
Morning and Evening Prayer
Pick two different prayer exercises and place one at the center of your morning devotion and another at the center of your evening. For example, you could choose to practice “Holy Reading” in the morning and review over your day with the “Prayer of Examen” at night (see other hand out). Or you may get a prayer book that offers guided plans for morning and evening prayer. Examples include:
The Book of Common Prayer
Christian Prayer
Prayer for Each Day
Take Our Moments and Our Days
Tips for Setting a Regular Time of Prayer
© Way to Live: Christian Practices for Teens (Upper Room Books, 2002), p. 287.
You may feel drawn to develop a more formal prayer time. Here are a few suggestions to consider:
1. Find a space that helps you pray, perhaps a space of beauty but not full of distractions. Your space might be a chair in the backyard, a darkened room with a candle, a comfy chair next to the fireplace, a bed in your room, a chapel in your church.
2. Once you have chosen the space, set a time. Start with a small amount of time, like 10 to 30 minutes.
3. Take a few moments to just sit in silence. Allow your body and mind to settle a little. When you first sit down to prayer, your insides are like a muddy pond. To clear the pond, sit and wait. Eventually the mud settles to the bottom, and the water becomes clearer. Usually it helps to find a simple word or phrase to repeat: “Jesus Christ”; “Into your hands I commit my spirit”; “Abba, I belong to you”; “Peace”; or some other phrase. Simply say this phrase over and over within you as though you’re listening to the rhythm of the ocean. As interesting thoughts arise, don’t try to stop them or latch on to them. Just keep saying your phrase.
4. After five minutes or so, begin to do what you love to do with God. That may be writing your thoughts in a journal, painting, reading Scripture, or continuing to sit in silence. It may be lying on your back, singing, dancing, or whatever helps you open your heart to God.
5. At the end of your set time, offer thanks to God and close with a simple prayer for the day – something like “Lord, help me to be loving this day” or “Help me to see you in every person I meet.”
6. Keep at it. Jesus taught that the most important part of prayer is being persistent (see Luke 18:1-8). The more we continue to pray, the more our heart opens for receiving and giving love. Try to continue the same prayer practice even when you get bored or tired of it. Praying is a little like playing an instrument or being an athlete: it takes practice. Over time you’ll discover that your prayer time will begin to transform you. You may notice a greater sense of peace, a deeper longing to help others, a greater hunger to be with God, a stronger sense of who you are. These are natural fruits of spending time with God.